Top Ten Myths About Introverts[views:18052][posts:125]__________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:29am - arkquimanthorn ""] as a INTJ to the letter, i found these funny and completely true, i'm sure a lot of people here relate: Top ten myths about introverts Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk. This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days. Myth #2 – Introverts are shy. Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite. Myth #3 – Introverts are rude. Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting. Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people. On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in. Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public. Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts. Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone. Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time. Myth #7 – Introverts are weird. Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy. Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds. Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them. Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun. Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up. Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts. Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ. http://jerrybrito.org/post/6114304704/top-ten-myths-about-introverts |
| ________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:31am - hauptpflucker ""] many truths here |
| ___________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:33am - CurlyRed ""] These are great. |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:41am - arkquimanthorn ""] [img] |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:41am - arkquimanthorn ""] [img] |
| ______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:42am - ouchdrummer ""] i think most of what they're saying is spot on... i mean, anyone who knows me knows that i'm NOT an introvert, but someone really close to me is. ;) |
| _______________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:43am - Lamp ""] Introverts are the superior breed of human. |
| ______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:44am - ouchdrummer ""] well that's just not true. I can agree that there may be a higher percentage of smart introverts, but there are some extroverts that are just as intelligent. |
| ____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:46am - dreadkill ""] the first half of this list is basically who i was growing up. i can still be introverted at times, and am not always an extrovert, but i'm very different socially than i was growing up. number 10 isn't a myth but the wording is stupid. there's nothing to "fix" about being an introvert. it's not wrong to be that way at all. if you want to be more extroverted, there are ways of overcoming obstacles, but not every introvert wants to change, nor should they. |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:48am - arkquimanthorn ""] Lamp said:Introverts are the superior breed of human. this is verifiable in a lot of ways, statistically. but, shut up about that, because introverts usually rely on their ace in the hole. |
| _____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:49am - Alx_Casket ""] I'm an INTJ 90% of the time. Add alcohol and I turn into an ENFJ. |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:51am - arkquimanthorn ""] ^^ so true. |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:57am - DestroyYouAlot ""] arkquimanthorn said: Lamp said:Introverts are the superior breed of human. this is verifiable in a lot of ways, statistically. but, shut up about that, because introverts usually rely on their ace in the hole. INTP, here, all of this is true. (Most of the above list can be ascribed to Aspergian-types, as well.) |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 11:58am - DestroyYouAlot ""] [img] |
| ______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:02pm - ouchdrummer ""] i refuse to admit that you introverts are superior to me. |
| ______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:02pm - ouchdrummer ""] That's right, i just made the broad discussion personal, bitches! |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:04pm - DestroyYouAlot ""] ouchdrummer said:That's right, i just made the broad discussion personal, bitches! broads are in the other thread, this one's for introverts. :D |
| _______________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:04pm - Lamp ""] ouchdrummer said:well that's just not true. I can agree that there may be a higher percentage of smart introverts, but there are some extroverts that are just as intelligent. Generalizations: Sometimes they happen on message boards |
| _____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:04pm - Alx_Casket ""] No assburgar, no friend. |
| ____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:05pm - narkybark ""] always been an introvert, still am. |
| _______________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:06pm - Lamp ""] Alx_Casket said:No assburgar, no friend. sup buddy |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:07pm - arkquimanthorn ""] jim you are definitely an extrovert. intro/extroversion is a baseline human social trait and reveals quite a bit about one's neurology. neither trait infers superiority. have you taken a myers-briggs test? |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:09pm - arkquimanthorn ""] http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Briggs_Type_Indicator http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp <- test here. i had no idea about these until DYA showed me a while ago. dreadfully accurate...and of course backed by my boy Jung. |
| _____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:14pm - Alx_Casket ""] People are surprised when they get to know me and realize how much of an introvert I am. Any suggestions of extroversion on my part is purely ironic, you probably don't get it. |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:17pm - DestroyYouAlot ""] arkquimanthorn said:http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Briggs_Type_Indicator http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp <- test here. i had no idea about these until DYA showed me a while ago. dreadfully accurate...and of course backed by my boy Jung. I love how the similar minds version has "suggested careers" - INTP lists "game designer" and "assassin" near the top. lololol |
| ______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:24pm - ouchdrummer ""] Your Type is ESFJ Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging Strength of the preferences % 1 1 12 1 They say i am the Guardian.. which means this stuff: Providers take it upon themselves to insure the health and welfare of those in their care, but they are also the most sociable of all the Guardians, and thus are the great nurturers of social institutions such as schools, churches, social clubs, and civic groups. Providers are very likely more than ten percent of the population, and this is fortunate for the rest of us, because friendly social service is a key to their nature. Wherever they go, Providers happily give their time and energy to make sure that the needs of others are met, and that social functions are a success. Highly cooperative themselves, Providers are skilled in maintaining teamwork among their helpers, and are also tireless in their attention to the details of furnishing goods and services. They make excellent chairpersons in charge of dances, banquets, class reunions, charity fund-raisers, and the like. They are without peer as masters of ceremonies, able to speak publicly with ease and confidence. And they are outstanding hosts or hostesses, knowing everyone by name, and seemingly aware of what everyone's been doing. Providers love to entertain, and are always concerned about the needs of their guests, wanting to make sure that all are involved and provided for. Friendly, outgoing, neighborly - in a word, Providers are gregarious, so much so that they can become restless when isolated from people. They love to talk with others, and will often strike up a conversation with strangers and chat pleasantly about any topic that comes to mind. Friendships matter a great deal to Providers, and their conversations with friends often touch on good times from years past. Family traditions are also sacred to them, and they carefully observe birthdays and anniversaries. In addition, Providers show a delightful fascination with news of their friends and neighbors. If we wish to know what's been going on in the local community, school, or church, they're happy to fill us in on all the details. Providers are extremely sensitive to the feelings of others, which makes them perhaps the most sympathetic of all the types, but which also leaves them somewhat self-conscious, that is, highly sensitive to what others think of them. Loving and affectionate themselves, they need to be loved in return. In fact, Providers can be crushed by personal criticism, and are happiest when given ample appreciation both for themselves personally and for the tireless service they give to others. |
| ______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:27pm - ouchdrummer ""] so... in summary, the party i'm throwing for Jess on Saturday is going to KICK ASS. Ya'll better come! |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:28pm - arkquimanthorn ""] dreadkill said:the first half of this list is basically who i was growing up. i can still be introverted at times, and am not always an extrovert, but i'm very different socially than i was growing up. number 10 isn't a myth but the wording is stupid. there's nothing to "fix" about being an introvert. it's not wrong to be that way at all. if you want to be more extroverted, there are ways of overcoming obstacles, but not every introvert wants to change, nor should they. i've always been the introvert and this list has always applied to me. young me would always go through cycles of feeling inadequate in social situations (unless close friends were involved) and then rationally dismissing any misgivings about myself i had. extrovert traits could not be forced upon me if my life depended on it. i can't even imagine living life as an extrovert. it does not (and for me, should not) compute. |
| _______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:30pm - timisfamous ""] Personality tests are cookie cutter shit.. |
| _____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:31pm - Alx_Casket ""] I only do them when I have nothing else to post on livejournal... |
| ___________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:37pm - CurlyRed ""] I just took that test lol. At least my career matches my INTJ personality. And no I am not an assassin(although that would be cool) |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:43pm - arkquimanthorn ""] timisfamous said: Personality tests are cookie cutter shit.. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers-Briggs_Type_Indicator ok |
| __________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:45pm - arkquimanthorn ""] i mean, normally i would agree with that, but this isn't "what twilight character are you?" |
| ______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:45pm - ouchdrummer ""] yeah, i think most things like this are cookie cutter esque.... and a lot of those questions could have gone either way.. like, i always TRY to do the first answer, but it doesn't always work out that way.. so i answered everything the way i actually do it, not the way i want to, or try to. |
| _______________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:52pm - RadicalVert ""] [img] Oh hai |
| ________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:55pm - timma ""] ouchdrummer said:Your Type is ESFJ Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging Strength of the preferences % 1 1 12 1 They say i am the Guardian.. Looks like I tested to same as you. Wanna have babies? |
| _____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 12:58pm - Alx_Casket ""] Sweet oververt section on the left of that ramp. |
| ________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:01pm - ghey_faguettes ""] ouchdrummer said:Your Type is ESFJ Extraverted Sensing Feeling Judging Strength of the preferences % 1 1 12 1 They say i am the Guardian.. which means this stuff: Providers take it upon themselves to insure the health and welfare of those in their care, but they are also the most sociable of all the Guardians, and thus are the great nurturers of social institutions such as schools, churches, social clubs, and civic groups. Providers are very likely more than ten percent of the population, and this is fortunate for the rest of us, because friendly social service is a key to their nature. Wherever they go, Providers happily give their time and energy to make sure that the needs of others are met, and that social functions are a success. Highly cooperative themselves, Providers are skilled in maintaining teamwork among their helpers, and are also tireless in their attention to the details of furnishing goods and services. They make excellent chairpersons in charge of dances, banquets, class reunions, charity fund-raisers, and the like. They are without peer as masters of ceremonies, able to speak publicly with ease and confidence. And they are outstanding hosts or hostesses, knowing everyone by name, and seemingly aware of what everyone's been doing. Providers love to entertain, and are always concerned about the needs of their guests, wanting to make sure that all are involved and provided for. Friendly, outgoing, neighborly - in a word, Providers are gregarious, so much so that they can become restless when isolated from people. They love to talk with others, and will often strike up a conversation with strangers and chat pleasantly about any topic that comes to mind. Friendships matter a great deal to Providers, and their conversations with friends often touch on good times from years past. Family traditions are also sacred to them, and they carefully observe birthdays and anniversaries. In addition, Providers show a delightful fascination with news of their friends and neighbors. If we wish to know what's been going on in the local community, school, or church, they're happy to fill us in on all the details. Providers are extremely sensitive to the feelings of others, which makes them perhaps the most sympathetic of all the types, but which also leaves them somewhat self-conscious, that is, highly sensitive to what others think of them. Loving and affectionate themselves, they need to be loved in return. In fact, Providers can be crushed by personal criticism, and are happiest when given ample appreciation both for themselves personally and for the tireless service they give to others. I got the same one, totally true btw |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:06pm - arkquimanthorn ""] RadicalVertBiker or GTFO |
| ________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:07pm - xmikex ""] Introvert and proud. |
| __________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:24pm - posbleak ""] ENTJ here, outta my way nerds... |
| _________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:46pm - Mark R ""] #6 is totally true, especially the last part. I'm fine and talkative when I'm hanging out with one person, but I clam up in a group setting. Without me prompting it, someone I know described it goodnaturedly as "I go into fuck-you mode when in a crowd". I'm not antisocial, more mono-social. But I should probably try to develop some "mingling" skills, those seem helpful. |
| ___________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:49pm - dreadkill ""] if i'm in a group of people, i have to know at least one person in the group, or i'm very quiet and awkward. |
| ___________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:50pm - dreadkill ""] back in middle school and high school, i was the quietest kid in the school. most of the time my friends weren't in my classes, so i clammed up. i didn't talk much in class at all unless it was to a friend who happened to be in a class with me, but that was rare. |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:51pm - SacreligionNLI ""] I tried taking that test but found that I have no definite answers to most of those questions. |
| ____________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:53pm - Alx_Casket ""] you scored as IDNO [img] |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:55pm - SacreligionNLI ""] har har har |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:56pm - SacreligionNLI ""] Sometimes I speak out in a crowd, sometimes I don't. It usually depends on how much sleep I got the night before or how drunk/stoned I am. |
| _________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 1:57pm - SacreligionNLI ""] But a lot of those questions were vague to begin with so I think the test overall is flawed. |
| ________________________________________ [Jun 15,2011 2:00pm - DestroyYouAlot ""] DestroyYouAlot said: INTP, here, ouchdrummer said:Your Type is ESFJ This is me, shocked that we occasionally talk past each other. lol |