serious shit... i need people opinion...[views:4956][posts:26]_____________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:11am - KeithMutiny ""] ok... so i been runnin into my ex-fiance a lot in the last week or so, after not seein her for like 3 years... i wanna ask her out... as friends only, but im unsure... what should i do? i seriously need some info here |
| ___________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:38am - ArrowHead ""] No. Not unless you've found something better. When you leave a relationship for whatever reasons, you can still retain memories and feelings. We all have a tendency to hold onto that which we like, while skirting around or forgetting the things we don't like. If you still have feelings for this girl (which you might not even realize you do) it can be very easy for you to fall for her again. Relationships usually end for a reason, and people DO NOT CHANGE, they merely mature and grow. |
| ________________________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 6:28am - whiskey_weed_and_women ""] don't be dumb man, it's a set up. run run run for your life, and when you think the coast is clear keep running. |
| __________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 8:50am - lynneaus ""] who ended it? was it on good terms? i tend to feel unless the friendship is established right afterwards it cant be healthy to start it down the line somewhere... i have one ex im good friends with... of course we live far away from each other now and dont talk much... we also werent together long |
| ________________________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 9:32am - humanbonedeathmachine ""] find a bi chick thats hotter than her and ask her if she wants to 3some. she'll either be a "friend" and get in bed with you and your girl or she will be disgusted and run the other way. either way you still got a hot bi chick and a non-serious relationship with your ex-bitch |
| ___________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 9:37am - subjugate ""] she's your X for a reason try and remember why then next time you see her spit in her face |
| __________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 9:40am - succubus ""] subjugate said:she's your X for a reason exactly |
| ________________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 9:44am - Josh_hates_you ""] does she take it in the ass? if so go for it. if not it's probably a scam of some sort. |
| __________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 12:25pm - Lincoln ""] succubus said:subjugate said:she's your X for a reason exactly Yes I agree.......no need to see or hang out with her. |
| ___________________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 12:30pm - largefreakatzero ""] If she's hot, why don't you just start stalking her? It's funnier that way. I, of course, mean funny in a prison way as opposed to a gay way. |
| ____________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 1:02pm - MyDeadDoll ""] i think it's OK to be nice to her when you see her... like say hi at least, don't just walk the other direction. but just keep it at that... it seems like more trouble than it's worth being as she's an "X fiance" as opposed to an "X girlfriend" |
| __________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 1:02pm - succubus ""] and if this is the same girl you've been talknig about... you are still quite sensitive about it so forget it |
| _________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:28pm - Lincoln ""] succubus said:and if this is the same girl you've been talknig about... you are still quite sensitive about it so forget it Was that the picture we saw last week??? |
| _________________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:33pm - kellthevalkyrie ""] I'd say stop associating with girls from your past and look for people who are completley new. |
| __________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:35pm - succubus ""] great answer K! |
| _________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:35pm - Lincoln ""] Makes sense but if the guy is hooked.......it's hard y'know? Mr. Mutiny I understand your question. It makes sense to move on and forget but if she was cool it's tough. |
| ___________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:39pm - subjugate ""] ok heres what you gotta do carve her name into you chest write a love / suicide note to her and blow your brains out (if you use a small caliber gun like a 22 go through the ear canal, if you use a large calaber gun say a shotgun go through the mouth) then she will feel like crap for a coupla days bofore she forgets you ever existed again have a nice day..................... people really should pay me for advice i think |
| _____________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:44pm - KeithMutiny ""] succubus said:and if this is the same girl you've been talknig about... you are still quite sensitive about it so forget it no, no, not that person... and for the rest of you i said STRICKLY freindship reasons |
| ____________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:55pm - MyDeadDoll ""] in cases like this, i don't think there is such a thing as "strictly friendship" |
| ______________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 2:56pm - shatteredliz ""] I think there can be a great friendship, if both people want to be friends. |
| __________________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 3:32pm - josiah_the_black ""] exactly, but even if you become friends, depending on the circumstances one of you (maybe both) is going to want to get into the sexual aspect of it, which is cool but you gotta remember once you start banging again its gonna start to rekindle old memories and it would just end up with trouble on your hands that you dont need, if you are interested in becoming friends 3 years after you broke up there probably isnt going to be much of a "friendship" as much as it would be a friends with benefits type thing so NO! |
| __________________________________________ [Nov 24,2004 11:43pm - kellthevalkyrie ""] eh....tread on these waters carefully, Keith. if I were you, I wouldn't do it. but then, I'm not you. It seems like you want to. I'd just keep my memories of what was, and keep it at that. There is no use in envoking the past. It won't change anything. Only you know what the relationship was like and what it would be like contacting this person again. So, yeah. Do what you want. |
| _____________________________________ [Nov 25,2004 1:20am - KeithMutiny ""] i appreciate the insite |
| ____________________________________ [Nov 25,2004 10:43am - dyingmuse ""] women are evil, and if you broke up leave it at that...unless you want to go through the whole thing again! |
| __________________________________ [Nov 25,2004 10:47am - Lincoln ""] josiah_the_black said:exactly, but even if you become friends, depending on the circumstances one of you (maybe both) is going to want to get into the sexual aspect of it, which is cool but you gotta remember once you start banging again its gonna start to rekindle old memories and it would just end up with trouble on your hands that you dont need, if you are interested in becoming friends 3 years after you broke up there probably isnt going to be much of a "friendship" as much as it would be a friends with benefits type thing so NO! Sure exactly...what do you say three years later. Does it even matter at that point? I don't think it really would...my point is if things were that fucked up in a relationship then what makes anyone think it will work as being friends? One of the two people involved obviously has enough of a problem with the other person to end it so why hang around and try to be friends if you didn't get along in the first place? Makes no sense....unless your that confused as to why it ended in the first place...in that case you'd better let your "friend" know exactly whats up. Being friends MIGHT work.......but at the same time how? And for how long? |
| ____________________________________________ [Nov 25,2004 11:16am - Todd(bombshelter ""] For a minute there I thought this was the lovelines website or some other gay teen shit...Moving on... |
| _____________________________________ [Nov 25,2004 12:32pm - BornSoVile ""] it's up to you dude. My niggah Ice Cube told me "Never go down the same road twice" that's some serious advice from the big man. |